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What is the Chinese hair-combing ceremony?
The hair-combing ceremony, known as shang tou, is a Chinese pre-wedding ritual usually held the night before or early morning of the wedding, in which an elder considered to have good fortune combs the bride's, and often separately the groom's, hair at a specific auspicious time, with each of several strokes tied to a spoken blessing.
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What is the Chinese hair-combing ceremony?
Also called: shang tou, shu tou, hair-combing ritual.
Shang tou happens quietly, away from the wedding-day crowd — usually the night before or before dawn, in the bride's or groom's own home, with just close family present. An elder chosen specifically for her own good fortune in marriage and family combs the hair a set number of strokes, each one paired with a blessing for a different part of married life.
How the hair-combing ritual is performed
- •Performed at a time calculated to be auspicious for the couple.
- •Conducted by an elder woman known within the family for a fortunate marriage and life, sometimes called a "good fortune woman."
- •Typically several strokes of the comb, each associated with a specific blessing — for a long life together, a harmonious marriage, and general good fortune.
- •Often done for the bride and groom separately, at their respective family homes, on the same night.
Planning notes
- •Confirm the auspicious time in advance, often set by an elder or almanac, so the right family members can be present.
- •Keep the guest list for this moment small and private — it is not a vendor-facing event.
- •If hair and makeup is booked for the wedding morning, make sure the styling team knows this ritual happens beforehand, not during their appointment.
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Who performs the hair-combing ceremony?
Usually a senior female relative or close family friend regarded as having good fortune in her own marriage and life, chosen specifically for that reputation.
Does the groom also have a hair-combing ceremony?
Yes, in many families the groom has his own hair-combing ritual at his family home the same night, separate from the bride's.
When is shang tou performed?
At an auspicious time calculated for the couple, typically the night before or in the early hours of the wedding day.
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